Hi, I’ve been friends with this girl for a long time now, a few months ago she started interacting more with me (a shy guy) and now we’ve become really close, but for some time now I feel like she’s more than that to me.
Up until now, I’ve been terribly afraid of telling her the truth for 2 reasons: I’m afraid of ruining the best friendship with a girl I’ve had my whole life (she really is important to me and I now feel like I wouldn’t know what to do without her in my life) and of destroying the dynamic of the friend group we’re both a part of, it is composed by four girls and me, so I think our relationship could do some damage…
But now, I’ve finally made up my mind about telling her the truth, just risk it!
Except everytime I ask her to meet up with me in person, alone, she avoids it and either has other events planned or invites more people to make us company.
I’m also very confused about her opinion about me since, most of the time, she avoids being alone with me, but just last week we had our high school prom and I felt like she flirted with me all night.
She seemed more enthusiastic than usual and rejected guys left and right when I was with her. When asked by a friend if I was her date for the prom (which I wasn’t, we went alone), she replied “no, but he could be”.
I just couldn’t tell if she was joking or trying to send me a signal.
Of course, this could just be because everyone wants a date for prom night, it’s special, but I don’t know, I just can’t shake off this feeling…
In summary, I’ve basically made up my mind about telling her, but it seems like she’s avoiding it.
What should I do?
Any solutions? Should I just give up?
Thanks for the help
Please note that this question was accidentally erased. Dr. Jamie reposted the question under her own name.
No, don’t give up. NEVER!
I sense that she is shy, too.
She is giving you lots of what I call Green Lights. She flirted with you during prom night, rejected guys when you were with her.
What do you have to lose by saying, “I think you may not know how much I care for you. You are such a precious friend to me, the best friend I have ever had. I would like us to be a couple. But, I’m not sure that you feel the same way. I’ve been hesitating to let you know how I feel, for fear that it will ruin our friendship, which is so important to me and which I don’t want to lose.”
Go for it.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised by her response.