I met a guy online and he was nice and respectful. Before the third date I was feeling hesitant about him and his intentions. We talked about this and I said that I didn’t want to get hurt again, so if he wasn’t serious to let me know now.He drove 2 hours to see me. He also has a plane, but the weather was bad. To make a long story short, he started talking about sex and asked me to strip. I said no, he talked about buying me stilettos and other sexy clothing. I said that is out of line.He hinted that his last girlfriend was into domination or something, I know what that is. I’m sick about this, I thought he was decent. He left and I haven’t heard from him again.Why would he do this?
I hear that you are very distressed by this man’s behavior. This man was obviously more interested in pursuing his sexual fantasies rather than establishing an intimate, emotional relationship.Clearly you are looking for a relationship, not to be someone’s sex toy. If you had established a solid relationship first, and then he had asked you to dress up for him, I am sure you wouldn’t have been as offended as you are now.What this man did was to simply reduce you to a sex object. This is a reflection of his incapacity to form an intimate, emotional connection. You had a funny feeling about him and your instincts were right. So good for you!Keep in mind that male sexuality is largely visual, meaning that men are aroused by what they see. So you shouldn’t be surprised to find that most men will be turned on by your dressing up for them and undressing for them, etc.Don’t waste time being sick over him. He’s just limited and not worth losing your lunch over. Just move on to greener pastures.
