I am 14 and a half years old.
I am 14 and a half years old. I have various medical conditions, and Iâ€™ve been in the hospital for about a month now. He works for Patient Transport. (When we met, he had come down to bring me from Interventional Radiology back to Peds.) I think it is no more than an innocent crush, though I am unsure. I am trying to give off small hints, but as stated I am still unsure. He has been going above and beyond what he needs to do (actually volunteering to be the one to bring me to where I need to go, staying afterwards and comforting me, using his lunch breaks to come up and see me instead) and I think that maybe, just maybe, he has the same feelings for me. I fear that it could just be sympathy or my age that makes him treat me as he does, although I hope that is not so. I also fear that my attraction to him may also scare him away… and we just wonâ€™t mention the fear that these feelings for him are just mistaken emotions.
My heart goes out to you. Medical conditions are so depleting. Yet you, miracle that you are, are vibrant enough to focus on love. You sound like one brave person! I think you may have forgotten how brave you actually are. If you can withstand your physical trials, you certainly can bear a little heartache. Mind you, heartache is only a worst-case scenario IF you find out that he is only being kind and not interested romantically. The only way you’re going to know is to go for it and take the risk. But that’s what life is about, taking the risks, brushing yourself off when you fall, risking some more, and finally succeeding. The disappointments hurt but they also put hair on your chest! I vote for going for it. I think, your risk isn’t too great. If nothing else, you will have a very caring new friend.I did notice that you said you’re 14 and I’m assuming this man who works for patient transport is over age. Keep in mind that even if he likes you–and why wouldn’t heâ€”that he could get in trouble with the law for dating a minor. Not to mention the fact that he could lose his job. I’m saying all this so that you do not insert your ego and get personally wounded in the event that he doesn’t take the bait. In other words, he has lots of reasons to say no, and none of them have to do with you and your desirability.This said, you have nothing to lose by going for it. I would suggest being light, flirty and playful. Find words that are comfortable and consistent with your personality. If it feels comfortable, you might say something like, â€œSo do all the damsels in distress that you transport fall for you?â€Or, â€œAre you always so attentive to ALL your patients or am I receiving special treatment?â€The good thing about being light and playful is that it gives him an invitation without holding his foot to the fire. If he’s interested and/or willing, he’ll take the bait. If he’s not willing, you won’t feel that you stuck your neck out too far, since you can always hide behind the fact that you were just being playful.Please promise to let me know what happens! Take good care of yourself. You are adorable and lovable.