Dr. Turndorf,Hi I am an 18 year old United States sailor. I have had previous relationships but always when they have come up to me and started talking.Now that I live in a bigger city (Norfolk VA) I don’t run into women that easily. I realised I have no game and now is when I feel that it is time for me to get in a serious relationship. I have always wanted one.Do you have any advice that might help me meet the ladies.
You have given me an important clue about yourself. Up to this point your relationships were the result of women approaching you. It seems that your greatest obstacle to forming connections is the fact that you aren’t more forward with women. Do you hang back because you are you afraid of being rejected? This fear is normal, so don’t berate yourself if you discover that you are afraid.The first thing you need to do is remind yourself that if you take a risk and do get rejected, you aren’t going to die. The rejection will smart a little, but you can at least pride yourself on the fact that you took a chance. Remember, the only failures are those who don’t try! And, if you aren’t failing, it means you aren’t trying enough!The best way to meet women is around areas of common interest. If you like to hike, join a hiking club. If you like to dance, join a dance club. When you see a woman that attracts you, go up to her and start a conversation. Ask interested questions. People love to talk about their favorite subjects–themselves.Also, say positive things since we humans are drawn to people who have positive feelings about us. You sound like a doll and I’m sure there are lots of women who will love to know you. Let me know how you make out and I do mean that literally!