HEY DR. LOVE,HOPE YOU’RE DOING WELL. ANYWAYS, I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ONLY 4 MTHS WITH A MAN I’VE DATED OFF AND ON FOR 2 YEARS AND WE HAVE A ONE YEAR OLD SON TOGETHER.WE HAVE A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER AND HE IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME AND OUR SON. HE IS 37 AND I AM 24, WE DON’T HAVE SEX AS MUCH AS I WANT TO. HE SAYS HE DOESN’T HAVE THE DRIVE THAT HE USED TO AND SOMETIMES HE JUST CAN’T GET HARD/OR IT WON’T STAY THAT WAY FOR LONG.HE SAYS THAT IT IS JUST OUR AGE DIFFERENCE, I DON’T KNOW THAT I AGREE WITH THAT B/C I KNOW MEN HIS AGE THAT HAVE NO PROBLEM.WE HAVE USED VIAGRA A COUPLE OF TIMES AND IT WAS GOOD, BUT IS THERE SOMETHING ELSE WE COULD TRY. I DON’T WANT TO DEPEND ON A PILL IN ORDER TO MAKE LOVE WITH MY HUSBAND.PLEASE HELP. . .
Sexual dysfunction isn’t ‘normal’ at any age. In fact, a healthy man should expect to function sexually until his death. It may take longer for an older man to get an erection, his erections may not be as firm, and they may not occur as frequently as when he was younger, but, nevertheless, a man should expect his sexual organs to perform for the long haul.Starting from the premise that your husband ‘s symptom isn’t normal, let’s see if we can figure out what is causing his problem. There are so many reasons why a man experiences erectile problems.First you want to make sure that he isn’t stressed, anxious or depressed. Mood problems have a direct impact on sexual performance. We also need to make sure that he isn’t unhappy in the relationship. Unresolved conflict and buried resentment can interfere with sex drive and performance. I know you said that you’re a happy couple, but even happy couples experience anger and conflict. Make sure that he isn’t burying his negative feelings, which could be putting his penis in an early grave!You also want to evaluate his health picture. Metabolic imbalances, such as diabetes or low thyroid function, food allergies, anemia, infections, prescription drugs, alcohol overuse, and so many more factors can interfere with sex drive and performance.Being evaluated by a physician who specializes in male sexual dysfunction can help him to pinpoint and/or rule out medical causes. Keep in mind that circulatory problems such as clogged arteries can also be causing his problem. If blood flow is restricted, then he would have trouble achieving or maintaining an erection.There is a lot of research linking elevated insulin levels to arterial clogging. The low carbohydrate diets that have become so popular today claim to protect arteries and even reverse any clogging that may exist.First rule out emotional and relational factors; next see a traditional doctor. If no medical conditions is found via the traditional medical route, then his next step would be to see a functional medicine specialist. These type of doctors perform tests that can help to identify problems that traditional medical tests may miss. L-Arginine creams have been shown to improve erectile function, but beware: Erectile dysfunction is a symptom of a larger problem.You want to identify and resolve this problem and not just mask it by using a cream that will improve the symptom without providing a cure.