If you were completely unconflicted about having sex, you wouldn’t have written to me! In other words, if you really believed on all levels that there was no reason to wait, you wouldn’t have written to me or waited. You’d be in the sack right now.So, let’s trust your hesitation and hear more about it. What part of you thinks it would be better to wait? What part of her thinks it would be better to wait?Talk to each other and lay out your thoughts–no pun intended. When you have all your thoughts and feelings out there, you will both be in a position to make the right decision for yourselves.