My wife and I have been married for 30 years. We are now separated and she is trying to find herself. She claims she doesn’t know what she wants. She’s afraid she may ruin everything.For many of our years, I haven’t been there for her emotionally. She claims to still love me but not as husband or lover. She had an affair about 3 years ago and she doesn’t seam to want to repair the damage.I don’t know what else to do. I don’t trust her and I think she is hiding something. My question is, if I have her open up and tell me everything, will this give me the power to start trusting again, or is it just going to make me never trust her again? Thank you.