Hello Dr. Love!My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We have a fantastic relationship in all respects: emotional, physical and intellectual. Early on in the relationship, we agreed on’how far’ we were going to go physically.However, as our relationship has progressed, we (as in both of us equally) have found it harder and harder to resist our temptations to go further than we have previously agreed on. We were wondering if you had any advice to help us keep our agreement.Thanks!Angel
You have set a difficult task for yourselves. Obviously humans have a drive for sexual contact, including intercourse. So, you are basically trying to fight City Hall, which is HARD to do, no pun intended.I assume when you say that you don’t want to go farther than you have previously agreed to go that you are speaking of not wanting to engage in actual intercourse. If you are both willing to masturbate and/or orally stimulate each other to orgasm, then at least you won’t be too frustrated.You also need to consider that the more physical contact you have, the more desire (and frustration) you are going to experience. Like the French say, appetite is stimulated when you eat, so is the sex drive. This means that you may need to limit the amount of physical contact you have, so that you don’t go crazy from frustration.You also may find that verbally describing the acts that you won’t allow yourselves to perform may give you a sense of ‘almost’ having engaged in the forbidden acts without your having to break your own rules. I wish you luck in sticking to your plan.