I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years. First two he was away at college and he’s finally back home but recently I’ve been more on edge. He has always had a mixed group of friends but since coming back I am just realising how many female friends he has, and how close. Just like how he is close to his male friends but in my culture it’s not the norm. I have no worries about these friends, our relationship is something known and respect and he’s never given me reason to doubt. But there’s this one friend I can’t shake off, she is beautiful and seems to enjoy gym like he does. He follows her finsta and she does have a boyfriend herself who she loves a lot, she has not given me any reason to be on edge about her. But I cant stop, and I don’t know why. I don’t know whether it’s bc even three years in, I haven’t met any of his close friends. I’m just uncomfortable with the thought of her, but since she’s part of his friendship group I don’t want to be THAT girlfriend. I don’t know what to do, even seeing her name in their gc puts me in a bad mood and makes me upset. I know I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety I have a history and not sure whether I’m being silly and making connections. What should I do?

Dr Jamie Turndorf Answered question September 8, 2022