Hello Dr. Love!I really have a problem.You see I developed a crush 6 months ago, then as the days passed I noticed that he liked me too. . . On May 16th, 2007, 11:00 AM. , he asked for advice from me. He said he wants to tell his crush that he’s fallen deeply in love with her. I told him to tell her by letter.Our communication at that time was writing each other even though we live near each other. . . So he did that. I was shocked when I knew that I was the one he is talking about. Because of my shock, I accidentally rejected him. I didn’t mean to do that.So, after that, in the afternoon, he treated me as his princess, well that was kinda sweet. Then it was already summer vacation and we haven’t seen each other. Now that classes have started, I finally saw him but we are not classmates now. I’m in the first section & he is on the second.So, Dr. Love, I just want to ask you how can I know that he still has feelings for me? Coz I heard that he now likes other girl and honestly I am jealous. . . We are still friends now. How can I know that he still likes me? I still like him. . .Please help me Dr. Love
The biggest problem in this relationship is that you both aren’t being direct enough with each other. I sense that each of you has felt afraid of admitting your love and risking being rejected.You said yourself, you want to know if he has feelings for you, meaning you want to avoid putting yourself out and getting rejected. In the end, the games that we play in order to avoid rejection end up getting us rejected! Can you see how?You don’t come out and say that you care, so he thinks you don’t like him and he moves on! We need to cultivate the ability to love without strings, love without expectation. Just open your heart and speak the love that ‘s in your heart.What happens, that is what we receive, isn’t as important as the love we give. Loving is its own reward. Paradoxically, the more love you give, the more love you receive. It’s time to focus on giving your love to him and not worrying about whether he likes you.The poor guy already told you he likes you and you didn’t respond well, as you, yourself, said. Now it’s your turn to take a risk, put yourself out, and mend a fence. I would tell him that you were so shocked to receive his letter that you were stunned into silence. Tell him that you have the impression that he read your silence as disinterest.Tell him how you feel. . . . that you want to be his girl. And, that you don’t want him to see someone else. Opening your heart to him will bring him back. It will also expand you in the process.
