MY BOYFRIEND CAN REACH AN ORGASM ANY WAY EXCEPT ORALLY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO FOR HIM, AND THIS IS SOMETHING THAT HE’S ALWAYS WANTED TO EXPERIENCE.HE IS 35 YRS. OLD, AND I AM 28. HE ALWAYS SAYS THAT HE WOULD MARRY THE 1ST WOMAN WHO COULD GIVE HIM THAT TYPE OF PLEASURE. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, AND I WOULD LOVE TO MARRY HIM, BUT I DON’T KNOW HOW TO GIVE HIM AN ORGASM THAT WAY.IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL THAT I NEED TO DO, OR IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH HIM. HE CAN CUM WITH HIS HAND BUT HAS NEVER BEEN ABLE TO DO IT WITH A MOUTH.DOES THAT MAKE SENSE? I DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO THIS FOR HIM, AND I’M SCARED HE WILL CHEAT ON ME. NO ONE HAD EVER BEEN ABLE TO GIVE HIM AN ORGASM ORALLY.DOES HE JUST HAVE A PROBLEM?
This man is playing head games with himself and with you. I say this because he is actually fooling himself into believing that he would marry the first woman who can fellate him to orgasm.I don’t believe that this man would be willing to marry anyone, even if her oral sex skills made him come like Niagara Falls. Why do I say this?First, his inability to orgasm during oral sex sounds like an inhibition. An inhibition is a defense mechanism, the purpose of which is to protect the self from feelings that are seen as dangerous. What exactly is dangerous about allowing oneself to orgasm during oral sex?Without his input, I am left to guess, and my guess would be that he is terrified to give himself over to a woman. By holding himself back physically (not allowing himself to come), his unconscious mind protects him from giving himself completely to you or any woman.But, that ‘s not the only way that he protects himself. When he says, ‘I’ll marry the woman who can make me achieve an orgasm through oral sex, ‘he is using his ‘tool’ as yet another distancing tool. He’s not facing his issues.Meanwhile, he’s working your face and your jaws till you get TMJ. Don’t be fooled. Even if your oral sex technique makes Linda Lovelace look like a girl scout, I don’t think that this man would allow himself to orgasm through oral sex.So instead of beating a dead horse, or giving yourself a terminal case of lock jaw, why don’t you examine why you are so attracted to a guy who puts such impossible conditions on you?Basically he’s telling you, perform miracles or you’re out. And, since he seems to have an agenda that makes every woman strike out, it seems like your days are numbered. Beware of becoming a pawn in a game that he doesn’t even know he’s playing.
