Hime and my boyfriend recently broke up because I caught him cheating on me! Now he is apologizing and I am sure when I forgive him that he will assume that I will go out with him again! So should I accept his apology?Also should I go out with a guy that I’ve had my eyes on ever since we broke up? Should I be the one to ask the guy out?Please reply as soon as possible! My heart is broken and I don’t know what to do!Thank you and have a great day.
You’ve asked me a lot of questions. Let’s go one by one. First of all, your boyfriend broke your heart. Whether you accept his apology or not isn’t as important as your being clear on what you want.It sounds to me like you really don’t want to go back with your former boyfriend and I understand why. If he cheated on you once who’s to say he won’t cheat on you again.As for going out with another guy. Are you thinking of seeing this other guy simply because you want to escape the pain over what your boyfriend did to you. In other words, do you want to numb your pain by focusing on a new love?You need to obtain closure in your heart regarding your ex-boyfriend before you even think of dating someone else. Talk to your ex is a good way of sorting out your feelings.Find out why he cheated. What was wrong in the relationship? Or is he just very young and not ready to settle down?Examine the impact that his behavior has had on you. Are you scared to trust another man? Are you angry? When you figure out how you feel, tell him. Also, examine whether there were signs that he was a person not to be trusted? Did he give you clues that you overlooked.Take note of all of this so you don’t make the same mistakes again. When you feel that your hurt has healed, then you are ready to move on and ask someone else out.
