Ok, There is this guy that I like and I know he likes me. . . we kiss every time we see each other and we talk about doing it (sex) all the time. . . I think he really means it. . .I would like to do it but I want to have a good relationship with the person and I don’t want him to push me to the side. He does that he calls me when HE has time. . . but its like the only time we talk and hang is when he has time. . .other wise if I contact him he doesn’t have time. So what should I do?
This guy’s behavior is telling you that he isn’t willing to become involved. The reasons for his behavior can range from fear of intimacy, fear of abandonment, and on and on.The reasons for his behavior hardly matter, however. He isn’t treating you right. He holds you off, and doesn’t have time for you unless it’s at his convenience. He is degrading you and I am alarmed that you don’t see it.What you should be doing is figuring out why you are interested in a man who doesn’t treat you properly. The answer to this question lies in your early life, I am sure, in which being neglected and pushed aside was the way of life. Such experiences early in life program you to think that you have to beg for crumbs, which explains why you have found someone who makes you grovel.Read my archived articles under unfinished business and repetition compulsion to understand why you are drawn to someone who deprives you. If you still feel stuck on him, then do some private therapy.
