Dr. Love, I have been dating my girlfriend now for about a year. We love each other very much and see each other every day. I am very serious about her but lately some things have been bothering me and I don’t know how to bring them up to her without insulting her or hurting her in anyway.My problem is that I am not finding her as physically atractive as I once did. She doesn’t seem to want to take pride in her appearance. I always try to look my best for myself and for her, but she doesn’t seem find that as important as I do.Since the start of the year I don’t think I have seen her more than twice in anything other than sweat pants, jeans, or casual pants (once was a wedding). She doesn’t want to do her hair ‘it’s only hair’ is what she says. These are things that I find important and at one time I thought she did too.I know she can look beautiful, she did when she courted me. I have tried shopping with her, which she hates, and everything I suggest doesn’t fly. She is large chested and difficult to fit, so buying her anything without having her try it on doesn’t work.I have tried little hints about appearance, but if they had worked I wouldn’t be seeking advice. We often talk about long term plans for the future and I don’t want something so shallow-sounding to get in the way of that but lately this is something that has been eating away at me, and I hate that it bothers me.I don’t know if the problem is mine, hers, or a little of both, but I don’t want to lose the woman I love. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.