Hello, my name is Glen, 18, and I need a little advice.You see I care a lot about this girl I’ll just say her name is Mimi, 17. She has a daughter that I also care about named Desi, 2. I have tried to spend a lot of time with the two of them. The thing is I try to include Desi into everything we do.Right now she says she doesn’t want a boyfriend. I told her I support whatever she decides. What I want to know is what can I do to show that I truly care about her and her daughter? Plus how can I tell that she really likes me? She is very sweet and smart. Please can you help me?Thank you for your time.
I hear that you have an agenda here, to prove to your girlfriend that you want to spend time with her child. I assume that you believe your girlfriend’s reluctance to be with you is due to her own belief that you don’t want to be around her kid.This is your idea. But is it based on fact? Is this what your girlfriend has told you? In other words, before you devise a plan to put your girlfriend’s mind at ease, don’t you need to be sure that you are responding to her actual issue?First, I would ask her a bunch of questions to zero in on her problem. You might ask, ‘Are you breaking off with me because you think I don’t want to be bothered with your child?’ If she says that ‘s not it, then you need to ask other questions like, ‘Did I do or say something to drive you away?’Realize that her wish to be free of entanglements may have nothing to do with you. She may be an overwhelmed single parent. She may be afraid of becoming involved again. She may be afraid of becoming pregnant again.So, my advise to you is get more information and then tailor your response to what you know for a fact is troubling her.Good luck.
