Dear Dr.Love,I have not had any meeningful relationships. I hve not had a relaionship for two years. It’s not like I’ve not ask before. I’ve asked many times. And I always get turned down. I don’t know whats going on in my life. Can you help me in asking a girl out propily. Beacause all I can think of is I’m not asking right.
When we study dating and courtship patterns throughout the ages, one thing comes through loud and clear. Women are attracted to men that they think will be loyal and faithful providers who will not abandon them and their offspring.You may be thinking, I just want a date, so why are you talking about providers and offspring. Because dating is a process that is designed to lead to marriage, a woman will more or less consciously choose to date men who are marriage material. What is marriage material. A man that makes a woman feel special. Like the only woman in the world. His number one. The various courtship rituals, flowers, chocolates, candlelit dinners all say that she is special to you.Women also like persistence. Persistence conveys to a woman that you will take care of her and stick by her through thick and thin. Again, that you will be a good provider who doesn’t abandon her. That means, not giving up so easily if she plays hard to get. Don’t forget, women have been trained to play hard to get, which may be another way of testing if a man is really serious about her (and will be a good provider).When you are interested in a girl, you need to take the time to talk to her. Ask interested questions. Take an interest in what is important to her. This also makes her feel like number one. When you ask her out, tell her what you like and admire about her. Tell her why you would like to know her better. We are all drawn to people that admire us. When you ask her on the date, choose an activity that interests her (based upon what you know about her).This month, for Chat Members only, I am running a Relationship Advice Guide that is for you. How to ask the woman or man of your dreams out on a date, and improve your chances of being told ‘yes.’ I encourage you to become a Chat Member so that you can benefit from this and all the other Relationship Advice Guides available with membership.