My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now and things are going very well. We are both 25. The other day we were out when she pulled out her wallet to pay for something, she pulled out a photo of her ex-boyfriend. They had dated for 3 years. They have been broken up for a year now.The photo was hidden inside one of the wallet’s small pockets. She said she forgot it was in there. When I asked her what she was going to do with it, she said ‘I don’t know’. The next day she told me that she took it home with her and placed it in an old album that had other pictures of her and her ex-boyfriend.I understand that girls like to keep things from past relationships and that doesn’t make me mad, but why go out of her way to keep the photo after she discovered it while at the mall and then took it home and put it in an album.I feel bothered by it because why is it so important for her to keep a photo of her ex? She says she doesn’t have feelings for him. But if they broke up a year ago.
You are different from your girlfriend.She obviously likes to keep rather than discard mementos of her previous relationships. I know you’re thinking without saying it that she must still have feelings for the guy, otherwise why keep so many photos.I bet your girlfriend is the type of person who saves lots of things, notes and letters from people she cares for, and everything else that represents something or someone who was meaningful to her.She’s a girl who is capable of love and attachment and she doesn’t throw things or people away. Her loyalty and devotion will make her a good girlfriend, life partner/wife to you.So, if I’m right and she saves all kinds of mementos, then don’t take this action as a sign that she still loves him or that she doesn’t love you. Don’t compare her to you. She’s a different person, after all.