I am 17, I have several soft tissue diseases and the chronic pain that I have to endure everyday is tough on my boyfriend. He is empathetic, but not sure how to deal with it when I’m am pain.It is a strain on our relationship and I don’t want to start feeling as if I’m a burden, like I used to when I first started having the problems. He has helped me through so much in the past year, but it is getting harder on him, I know.I crumpled up in the middle of a store the other day and then he helped me out to the car. In the car I was still in a little ball of pain and he mistook it that I was upset with him or something. I wasn’t! I was just in pain!After I explained this to him he started yelling. Not necissarily at me, though. He was saying how it wasn’t fair to him. . . then in a smaller voice he said: ‘. . . and it isn’t fair to you.’The chronic pain gets in the middle of alot of the things we do, when we are having fun- it’ll start and bring us smashing down out of our sunny cloud.I need help sorting this all out; I’m not sure what to do. Will it help if I just try to hide it more when I’m in extreme pain at the most inappropriate of times? I’m at a loss as to what to do!!!
You have been on my mind ever since I read your letter. My e-mail program in box is so overloaded with mail that I have had to spend literally hours searching through all my letters in order to be able to find yours again. That’s how much you touched me.I had to get back to you because I have heard of substance that has helped other people with soft tissue diseases like yours. It’s called colostrum, and I have personally witnessed or read about amazing recoveries for conditions like yours thanks to the use of colostrum. Here’s the number 1-877-454-2602.Also, ask them to send you the book on colostrum so you can gain courage by reading about how other people with even more debilitating conditions have been cured. While you have the company on the line, ask for the name and number of their expert who will help you find a dose that is right for you.One man that I know of who was crippled with fibromyalgia, spoke with their expert who told him to take 6 colostrum twice a day! That man, who wasn’t even able to walk any longer, is up and around again.So, don’t wait. After you have tried it, let me know how you are. If I were you, I would not only see traditional doctors. You would be wise to visit a holistic physician who is familiar with all the possible causes of muscle pain.Make sure that you don’t have candidiasis, hypoglycemia, food allergies, parasites, or tick borne diseases, such as Lyme Disease. You need a versatile and open minded person examining you.Also keep in mind that whenever the body develops auto-immune conditions in which it attacks itself, it is vital to explore whether emotional factors may be triggering the illness. There are cases in which a person is filled with buried anger, which can easily be turned against the self in various ways including headaches, stomach aches, and even conditions in which the immune system attacks the body.Because the mind and body are one, it is common for emotional struggles to be expressed through physical symptoms. Think about how this fact is conveyed through common expressions like, you make me sick, you turn my stomach, you make my skin crawl, you eat my liver out, you’re killing me, and so onIs it possible that your body is aching because you are in emotional pain? If you ask your body to speak to you, what would the pain tell you about how you feel about your life, past and present?In his book, Peace, Love and Healing, Bernie Siegel also talks about how the unconscious mind can make a person sick in order to fulfill the emotional needs that weren’t being met when the person was well.One woman in his book realized that her cancer enabled her to receive the love and attention she had been lacking her entire life.Some people become ill to fill emotional lacks from childhood. If you were deprived of attention as a child, then becoming sick is a way to get attention now. If your parents only gave you love and attention when you were sick, then your unconscious mind has been programmed to believe that the only way for you to receive love and attention is for you to get sick and stay sick.Make sure that you address this problem from all angles. This will provide you with the greatest chance for a cure. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t heal. Don’t let anyone treat you from a strictly medical point of view. Treat this sickness as a messenger and begin to listen to the message.As for your boyfriend, we need to understand what he means by’this isn’t fair to him. ‘Does he mean that your pain is infringing on his life in some way? Is he feeling burdened to have to take care of you? You need to get him to explain what he means.He must also tell you if he would feel better if you told him or tried to hide it when you are in pain. All you can do is get him to talk openly with you and take it from there.Keep in touch with me and let me know how you progress.
