Dear Dr. Love:My fiancee and I have been dating for about 3 years and have been living together for the last year and a half. We’ve been engaged for about 2 months now. I’m 28 and she’s 24. When we first started going out, we had a great sex life. We had sex 3-5 times a week, and she would initiate sex almost as often as I would.11 months ago, her father passed away suddenly. This was obviously a terrible blow to my fiancee, and for me as well since I had a really good relationship with her Dad and had looked forward to having him as a father-in-law and grandfather for our future kids. Of course neither of us were’in the mood’ for quite a while after he died, but I just assumed our sex life would go back to normal eventually. It hasn’t.Ever since her Dad passed away, my fiancee feels uncomfortable having sex because it’s always in the back of her mind that her Dad can see us. She never initiates sex anymore, and we only seem to do it about 2-3 times per month. When we do, it almost always seems like she’s grud gingly giving in to something I want to do, so I’ll be appeased and not bother her for a while, and she seems like she wants it over with as quickly as possible.I wish it would be more like the two of us enjoying something we both want to do, rather than her occasionally giving in to something I want to do but she doesn’t. The fact that I have a very strong sex drive and she has basically none has created tension between us.We’ve tried talking about it, but it hasn’t seemed to help – it just seems to make her get defensive. I’m frustrated because I don’t know what to do about the situation. I don’t want to be insensitive to her feelings, but I want to do something about this. It bums me out to not feel wanted sexually by her, even though I know she loves me, and I love her.I know our relationship is based on a lot more than just sex, but sex is an important part of it, and I think that part is in real trouble. Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.Ps. I’m sure you don’t use people’s names in messages you post on your website, so if you decide to post mine (which I really hope you do), you could just refer to me as’Frustrated Guy in Texas’ or something like that. Thanks.