Ok, I’m 16 and a guy. I’m in love with my best friend (she’s a girl). I love her so much. I think about her everyday. We wanted to date a few years ago but she is best friends with my sister too. We didn’t want to hurt my sis, so we never dated. A few years later, I’m still in love with her.I go to a small school, so there is no girl to ‘get my mind off of her. ‘ I love her. She has talked to and dated a few other guys and I’m always jealous. I want to be friends but I don’t know if I can. I love her but she just wants to be friends now. I don’t know if I can just be friends because I want to get over her.I still love her, but I need to move on. I know I’ve said that like ten times. I have tried to get over her but the only way I can is if I get mad at her, which puts both of us in a bad mood. She is in every one of my classes and comes over like everyday. (Cause of my sister) I love her and want to be more than friends.What do I do. Move on? How?
It’s clear that you want a romantic attachment with this woman and not a simple friendship. It’s also clear that you don’t want to ‘move on.’ I also heard you say that she doesn’t want more than friendship with you.Let’s back up a second. You said that you both wanted to date each other some time back, but decided that doing so would hurt your sister, who is a friend of hers. I wonder why you both assumed that a romantic involvement between the two of you would hurt your sister?First rule of thumb. Never mind read, unless, of course, you are Madame Zola, psychic extraordinaire! Since you didn’t tell me you’re a practicing psychic, I have to assume that you don’t possess the power of second sight.So, this means you need to ask your sister if it’s true that she would be upset by your dating her friend. I bet that if you tell your sister how strongly you feel about this woman, that your sister wouldn’t think of standing in your way. Once you confirm that your sister is ‘cool’ with your having a relationship with this woman, then you can go to her and tell her exactly how you feel about her.You will also then tell her that you both made a mistake in assuming that your sister, her friend, would freak on your becoming involved. Tell her that the love you feel for her is so strong and such a special gift that you would regret walking away from her for the rest of your life.Once the phantom obstacle of your sister’s wrath is removed and your love is declared, I’ll be amazed if she doesn’t just melt in your arms. Please let me know what happens.
