Hi. I have recently met someone online who lives over 12 hours away by car. We have exchanged pics and we talk on the phone daily as she calls me most nights. We have plans to meet in the summer. We flirt on the phone and through text but I am unsure about her response to sexual texts. She seems to enjoy what I say, but also doesn’t really reciprocate beyond saying “that’s hot” and sending emojis. I’m wondering if I’m wasting my time and she just sees me as a friend. Thanks
Keep in mind that you haven’t yet met this person in person. She may hesitate to get sexual with you especially if she likes you and wants a relationship. She may be afraid that you will not respect her if she engages in casual sexual texts with her. And she may also wish to hold back sexually until she knows whether a real relationship is coming her way—no pun intended.
Rather than wonder, ask her how she feels. Friends don’t tend to engage in sexual phone flirting and texts, by the way.
So many relationship confusions can be resolved by simply stating your thoughts and feelings and why you have them. So, in this case, you would say exactly what you said to me: We seem to enjoy our texts and phone calls most nights. And we flirt sexually on the phone and through texts. I notice that you don’t seem to want to get too heavy on the sexting, I’d like to know more about what you’re thinking? You can ask her the above questions: Is she waiting to get hot and heavy until you guys meet and decide whether you want to take the relationship to the next level.
You get the idea. All your questions will be answered by speaking directly with her.
It’s clear she likes you or she wouldn’t be wasting her time speaking with you on the phone most nights.