Dear Dr. Love,I am a 31 year old, single, never married, female. I have had many ‘relationships’ over the years, and not one has lasted longer than, approximately, three months. I would guess that the ratio is 60:40, I break up with them. Usually I break up with them because I feel that they are ‘not treating me the way I think I deserve to be treated’. I believe that the reason they don’t treat me as well as I’d like them to is because they don’t like me enough.And from my experiences I’ve learned that sex is not the answer, because that was usually the turning point. Once sex happened, the relationship would end–sometimes even more quickly. I was very promiscuos for a while, I guess I thought that sex would get one of the guys to stick around, only, of course, it never worked because I didn’t want them to stick around just for sex. All of this hurt so much that I decided to take a break from relationships. I haven’t had more than a casual date in the past four and a half years, and I haven’t had sex in at least that long, either.Until about two months ago. I’ve met a really wonderful man. He treats me like gold. I really like him a lot, I think I’m falling in love. I guess what I don’t know is, how do you know when you’re in love? How do you know if it’s the ‘real thing?’I’ve let him know that I don’t plan to have sex until I’m married, and he’s okay with that. I know that he’s not seeing anyone but me. What I’m scared of is that he may have the impression that I’m more innocent than I really am. I don’t want to share all of my previous experiences with him, but as a result, I think he may have the idea that I have far less experience than I really do. I don’t want to be misleading, or dishonest, but I don’t know if it’s important to let him know about these things or not.Am I failing his trust? What it all boils down to is that I’m afraid that if I let him know about my past experience, he won’t like me as much anymore, and I’ll have a repeat of my three month break-up record. Could you possibly give me some direction? I don’t want to screw-up this time.