I have liked this man for over two years and I don’t know if he feels the same way. Please don’t feel bad of me when I explain. I am 28 and he is 62.He is a partner in the letting agency that rents my flat. He does have a partner who he has been with for over 7 years but I’ve heard she doesn’t treat him right. She throws herself at other men and she behaved like this at the office Christmas party and this was when he was going through cancer.I have never gotten over him but I tried to by avoiding going into the office and going past there but it didn’t work for long. Recently I found out from a man who works for them that it’s common knowledge that I like him so he must know how I feel.The other day when I went in there he started up the conversation by asking me what I did over the weekend. If he knows and he doesn’t want to encourage me why would he make conversation. I could understand it if he just said hi, how are you and left it at that but to ask me what I did over the weekend.What do you think? Is he just flirting with me or being friendly? Surely though he would be careful as he knows how I feel. Please help!!! I’m going mad!!!
Since he knows that you like him, he wouldn’t be striking up a conversation with you if he weren’t interested in getting to know you more.All my alarm bells are going off. I’m concerned that he’s been involved with another woman for seven years. The fact that he stays with her despite her mistreatment of him tells me that he has issues. Either his self-esteem isn’t strong or he’s recreating a dysfunctional pattern from his first family.Whatever the reason, the man seems invested in being mistreated. So where does this leave you? Are you hoping to rescue him from his mean mommy? You need to be very clear as to your own thoughts, feelings, and fantasies.To become friendly with him–or more–could lead you to suffer greatly, especially if your fantasy is that he’ll leave his partner for you. When, from all that I see, he’s invested in staying with someone who dumps on him.The more up front you are with him, the better it will be for all parties concerned. Find out where he’s coming from. Where he stands with his partner. Whether he intends to stay with her.If he does, then, given how much you care for him, will you be able to just remain friends with this man? If not, then you need to think twice before you pursue a more intimate relationship with him.