I am a 28 year old female who has come to realize that I am hopelessly in love with a male co-worker. I have known this man for eight years since college and have had feelings for him all along. I have always had a weight problem, and until this last year have had no real sense of self-worth. I have made drastic changes in my life as far as losing weight, getting healthier and basically realizing how much I have to offer.As for him, he divorced his wife of three years last Spring, and I have been battling with myself as to whether or not I wish to start something with him. I know he cares for me, and I don’t think I have misread the way he looks at me.The two of us spend a great deal of time kidding around, giving each other a hard time and looking into one another ‘s eyes a little longer than usual. I asked him out in college and he made up some excuse, (and of course I didn’t realize at the time he was involved with a mutual friend who was separated from her husband), and am afraid of rejection once again. Still I am more afraid of spending the rest of my life crying myself to sleep because I love someone I am not with.Can you help me out? I feel sometimes as if I should just move on and try to get over how I feel and remain friends.Definitely In A Dilemma.