Dear Dr Love,I don’t know what to do. I am going through what I guess you could call a break-up right now, and I need some advice on what I should do. Let me give you a little bit of background info on the relationship before I get to my question.I’m 25 and I had been seeing this guy who is 21 for over a year, but we never officially called ourselves ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’. He sometimes slept with other girls while I was seeing him, but because he was never my ‘boyfriend’ I didn’t have the right to be angry.After a while, I couldn’t deal with living like that and I told him that even though we weren’t boyfriend and girlfriend, in order for me to still see him, I needed him to only sleep with me. Things went great for a few months after that, and would have probably stayed the same, except for the fact that I got pregnant.Needless to say, we both freaked out, and then decided that we wanted to terminate the pregnancy. During that time, I didn’t sleep with him but we continued to see each other, and I would stay the night at his house. After the pregnancy, I decided that I couldn’t handle sleeping with him unless he was going to be there for me emotionally as well as physically.For a couple of weeks, I made it clear that I wasn’t going to sleep with him, and didn”t put myself into any situations where I might have a lapse in judgment. Finally, one night when I gave him a ride home from the bar, he asked me to come inside with him. We had started a conversation on the way home about how I felt about him, and he wanted to continue it.We ended up having a major conversation where I admitted that I was in love with him, and he told me that he was very scared of our relationship because for one, he didn’t know why I loved him, and two, he had ‘never felt the way he did for me about any other girl.’ He also told me that he was taught as a child that love gets in the way of your more important goals, and makes you weak.In addition, he told me that he was scared for me to really get to know him, because he felt that the more I knew about him, the less I would like him. Two weeks after this breakthrough conversation, he showed up at a bar with another girl, was all over her, and paid no attention to me. We got into a fight, where he told me that while she was just a friend, he wanted to be completely single. I also found out that night that he had slept with a different girl after we had the big conversation. At the end of the night, we got into a screaming match, and now, about a month later, we still haven’t spoken.To make matters worse, I found out that the week after the fight, he and this girl who was ‘just a friend’ were telling people that they were boyfriend and girlfriend. It just doesn’t make sense to me, because he was always so anti-girlfriend, and then he immediately jumps into a relationship. I don’t know if he’s still seeing her, because I have taken every possible measure to avoid seeing him or hearing anything about him.At the same time, I think about him constantly and miss him so much it hurts. All my friends tell me that he’s not good enough for me and that I should just move on. While I know that that ‘s the smartest thing to do, I just can’t let go or move on.I know that he cares a lot about me, and is just scared. I honestly believe that if he could just be ok with how he feels, that we could have a great relationship.Am I a complete idiot totally in denial? Would I be wasting my time trying to work things out?Signed,Damsel in Denial