I’m a 20 year old male, who will be a junior in college. When I was a junior in high-school, this freshman girl caught my eye. For some reason it seemed like I knew her from somewhere but I didn’t. I saw her a few more times until finally cupid’s arrow struck. I became overwhelmed with feelings for this girl although I had no clue who she was or what she was like.Well, I had a crush on her for the rest of my high school days, though I never heard her speak and was too shy to approach her. So, after high school, even though I saw her around once in a while, she begins to fade in my memory.Then this past Spring, I get a job at a department store in our town. I start to talk with another girl in the department and she asks me if I knew’Karen’ (the girl who I had had the crush on)…because she’ll be working in the department I’ll be working in. My heart dropped. I was so nervous working with her for the first few times. But she was so nice to me and so comforting, we began to have a great friendship and now love working together. We get along great and she tells me I’m the funniest person she’s ever met. She is greater than I could of ever imagined and she really likes me…to what extent I’m not exactly sure. But she is in a crappy relationship right now.So I have two questions, should I pursue her even though she is in a relationship? And should I tell her I used to have a huge crush on her hoping she’ll think we were meant to be together? Please help!
They say lightning doesn’t strike twice, but in your case, it has. How lucky can you get!You asked me if you should pursue this woman even though she is with someone, and you also asked if you should tell her about your crush.I wonder why you would you hesitate to tell her how you feel? Are you thinking that it would be wrong to speak of your love when she is with someone else? There is a big difference between talking and acting. Pursuing her, while she is involved with someone else might be a bit inappropriate. But, there is no law against talking about your feelings for her. If you talk with her about your feelings, you are not acting inappropriately, you are just saying how you feel.And, in response to your second question, should you tell her about your crush. Can you imagine how delighted she will be to know that you had a crush on her way back when and still do. One thing that touches a woman’s heart, perhaps more than anything else, is to know that a man’s love is enduring. This gives a woman the feeling of safety and security that is the foundation of all lasting love.I also have the feeling that she is hoping that you will tell her how you feel about her. Her complaining about her current boyfriend is a way of sending you a message–I’m not happy, I’m almost available.Fate has lent you a hand. Now, you need to help fate along by adding your tongue to the equation. Talk to her and let me know what happens.