Dear Dr. Love,I really like this teacher at my school and I told him that I had a crush on him at the end of the year last year. Is it bad to like a 30 year old happily married man? I cant seem to get rid of the crush and I’m beginning to love him. I know you might think that I sound very foolish but I really do love him. What do I do, Dr. Love?Crush girl
No, you don’t sound foolish for loving a 30 year old, happily married man. Feelings are never foolish. If you get caught up in indicting yourself for feelings or attempt to turn off your emotions, you will soon become twisted into an emotional pretzel. All your feelings need to be accepted: sexual, murderous, jealous, whatever.But, here’s where this get’s tricky. You must be able to separate feelings from actions. The only way you can be free to think, feel and fantasize whatever you wish is by knowing that you cannot act upon these thoughts. Once you are clear on the separation of feelings and actions, then you can allow yourself to dream away without being wracked with shame and guilt.So, dream on about your sexy hunk of a teacher. But, make sure that you don’t act on your fantasies.
