Dear Dr. Love,I am constantly having sex in my dreams. Sometimes with people I know and other times with complete strangers. It is embarrasing because sometimes my husband will wake me up in the middle of the act and then wanting to know who it was. At times I would lie that it was him.What causes this and should I seek a professional help and where?Please help.
Dreams serve the purpose of wish fulfillment. The mind will often dream about engaging in acts that the conscious mind finds unacceptable. These unacceptable urges get repressed and then resurface in dreams.There is no wrong dream or wrong urge. It is normal to have sexually promiscuous as well as murderous dreams. The problem here isn’t the dreams, it’s your distress over your own normal impulses.So, it would be good to enter therapy in order to work through your own guilt and embarrasment over these normal impulses. When people feel guilty over sexual or aggressive dreams, it’s usually because they aren’t sure that they can control their behavior during waking hours. In therapy, you will learn to make a separation between the impulses that are inside you and the actions you take in waking life.Once you are clear that you can think, feel and dream about whatever you like, without risking going out of control in actions, then you will feel more comfortable with your sexual urges as they express themselves in dreams.