There is a girl I’ve been seeing for about 5 months now and she has been doing some things which bothers me a lot. Examples are: she still receives from her ex, I once went to visit her and when introducing me to her landlady she said I was her friend, she equally told her work colleague that I was her cousin. We had a quarrel this week cus I went to her office and asked her to come down and charge my phone for me, she blue ticked me. I got so pissed off I lashed out. Recently she said they went for a business presentation in another city but she didn’t come and sleep home, all this is hurting me and I don’t whether to move on and leave her or not. Please help
It sounds like this girl doesn’t tell the truth. First, she introduced you as her friend, then as her cousin. Did you ask her why she introduced you as her friend and her cousin? I wonder what she would say.
At the very least, she doesn’t want others to know you are her partner. Why? Is she hanging on to you until someone better comes along? Whatever her reasons, you aren’t being treated properly. Why would you want to be with someone who distresses you so greatly?
The fact that you would even consider staying with her tells me that you are no stranger to abuse. Humans tend to gravitate to what is familiar. I suspect you were not treated in a loving way in your first family, which would set you up to choose a girlfriend who treats you disrespectfully.
Before dating anyone else, please get some therapy. Identify who mistreated you and how you felt and feel about it. People who are mistreated have damaged self-esteems. Low self-esteem leads you to choose people who treat you like crap, which mirrors how you feel about yourself. The sad reality is that each time a girlfriend mistreats you and you allow it, it lowers your self-esteem even more. Please, get help and don’t date until you are more healed. You deserve more, so much more.