So here’s the thing, I’ve liked my best friend for nearly 2 years and he finally asked me out about a month ago; and I said yes. But the thing is I really don’t know whether I like him or not; whether I see him as just a friend or as something more. I don’t feel what I felt around 2years ago. As in my heart doesn’t waver, I don’t even feel giddy and silly. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. I love him of course he’s my best friend. But I don’t know if we should keep on being gf and bf or go back to being friends. I can’t even break up cz I’m not sure of myself. Like what if I break up and turns out I’m in love with him. And obviously I don’t want to do anything that’ll make him sad. Plus my family’s moving to another country in 3 months time so I really need advice asap. I’m scared that I might loose contact with him and regret literally everything.
What a great question. You are confused because you are comparing champagne and wine. Two years ago, your love was fizzy, like a freshly opened bottle of champagne. You were experiencing the bubbly excitement of a freshly uncorked bottle! Now, 2 years later your love has mellowed like fine wine.
Yes, you are friends. And that is wonderful. All the most enduring loves are based upon a solid and enduring friendship.
Many people become confused when the excitement of new love mellows. They wonder if they were only in lust with another person. Knowing how to tell the difference between love and lust is very important. I have lots of articles on the site that discuss how to know whether you’re in love or only in lust. I previously broadcast Dr. Love’s Quickie’s, short entertaining and educational relationship radio spots. One of them went like this: Did you know that you should never use your peter as a love meter? Every time Mark takes a new woman to bed, he ends up scratching his head, his big head I mean! How can he tell the difference between love and lust? TIME. Why lust usually fades in a few months, true love lasts. So, when it comes to gauging whether you’re in love or only in lust. Never use your peter as a love meter.
I suggest you check out Dr. Love’s Relationship Toolkit, which contains multiple tests and guides that I have created to help you assess yourself, your partner and your relationship. The guides help you determine if you are truly in love or only in lust, whether you and your partner are compatible, who is your ideal partner, whether your partner is relationship material, whether you are ready for love, what is your relationship IQ, how to know if someone likes you, and more!
Knowledge is power and these guides will give you the assurances you need to go forward with confidence.