Dear Dr. Turndorf,I have recently met someone online and I have been speaking with her on the phone for quite sometime, and we have been exchanging letters as well as photos of family and ourselves.I really have a deep felt heart warming sensation when we speak and also in the letters we share poetry, lyrics, many things. I have decided to travel to where she is so that we can meet on her home turf so that she may be more comfortable.My question for you is am I crazy for chasing dreams?She makes me feel wanted and needed, and we have never even met! It’s like we have everything in common we both laugh a lot and have shared intimate details about our personal lives that we normally don’t share with everyone. Even some of my exs didn’t know things like she knows already.Am i crazy? It feels good to try this. I am confident that this could be a possible relationship but I’m afraid.I don’t know what kind of frame of mind to have when we do meet, Just open or still the same heart blocking guy I have been at first, I’m in my 30’s and I am looking for my Ms. Right.What can I do to insure this woman just may be her? Thank you very much.
Your love affair isn’t crazy at all.You have come to know this woman intimately through the letters and phone calls that you’ve exchanged. Think about the courtships that have occurred throughout history. Many people have fallen in love through written correspondence alone! You both have had more contact than that.You have also spoken at length by phone and have exchanged photos. All that ‘s left to do is to meet and let nature take its course! I hear that you think you’re crazy or chasing dreams. I think you need to figure out why you have these ideas.I have the impression that you think the connection you have formed isn’t real (that ‘s it’s a crazy dream) precisely because you haven’t been meeting face-to-face. But, again, remember what I said about the deep relationships that have blossomed through letters alone.In order to ease your mind, before you meet in person, why use my Is She Ready for Love? consultation, which will help you assess whether she has emotional issues that might make her unready for a relationship.Also, use my Compatibility Consultation, which will assess your level of compatibility. When you find out that she is, indeed, ready for love and that you are also very compatible with each other, you will feel more confident to meet her in person.Then when you do, just be the same person that you are in your letters and phone calls. Let your heart lead you. Be the same man that you’ve been all along with her. Be yourself. Be open. Be you.It is you, after all, with whom she’s fallen in love, so why would you want to be anyone else? Follow your hearts, as you’ve been doing all along, and you will both be fine.
