dr. love,i’ve been having sex with my boyfriend but i cant seem to have an orgasm, even when im on top, he always cums before me but i can never seem to be able to reach an orgasm.i mean it feels real good but can you tell me how i would be able to have an orgasm? he even rubs my clitoris but it takes me forever.please help!
The average woman needs twenty minutes of direct clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm, so I am wondering if you are so slow after all or if you are simply comparing yourself with your boyfriend, who, like most males, achieves orgasm much quicker than women do.The way couples get around this is to make sure that they have a long enough foreplay in which the female’s clitoris is quite stimulated before even starting intercourse. A good way to begin is to have him stimulate you almost to the point of orgasm, then begin intercourse. You have a better chance of coming in intercourse if he handles you this way.As for coming quicker from regular manual or oral stimulation, you can’t fight City Hall. Just relax. If you stress out, it will take you longer to come, if you can come at all.Relax, and let your body go at its own speed. Fantasy, erotic materials, videos can all heighten your arousal and quicken the time it takes to achieve orgasm.But, above all, remember to relax and take your time. Stop watches are for the Olympics not for the bedroom.