I need help in the initiating sex department. I am 35 and married with three children. I have been married for 16 years and my husband has always done the initiating.Now he says he will not initiate and will hold out on me until I initiate. For some reason I am not sure what to do. We are not big kissers (he chews Skoal) so I never know whether he has a chew in or not-so we don’t kiss very often at all.Please help–my marriage is in trouble.