I recently started one of my first relationships. We already agreed that we were not going to have sex until marriage if that ever comes up. We are however very intimate. We sleep together, cuddle, make out, etc, but no sex or nothing remotely close to it.The problem I have is that every time were together intimately i get an erection. I happen to get erections very easily. The last time we were together she was on top of me and she noticed it.She was somewhat disturbed by that, thinking that i was planning to have sex with her. So now every time she wants to get intimate i kinda shy away or if i do get an erection, i have to hide it.Why do i get erections so easily and what can i do to prevent them from happening at the wrong time.
First you need to understand that your instinctual reactions, including spontaneous erections, are not subject to your intellect. While your mind has the best laid plans in the world–no pun intended–your body could care less. In response to sexual stimulation and arousal, you will become excited and you will get an erection and there is nothing you can do about this.I understand that she was upset because she thought that your erection signaled that you wanted to have intercourse. She’s right. Your body does and that is the way you are supposed to react.She needs to know that even though your body has a mind of it’s own, your little head isn’t running the show. You made a decision with your big head and you can remind her that you promise to keep that vow to her, no matter how many erections you have.Put out of your minds the plan to try to control involuntary bodily responses. You will go crazy trying and you won’t succeed. Once you reassure her that you intend to stick to the plan, she should feel more at ease when you become erect.Above all, be thankful that your body works the way it’s supposed. It’s time to get upset when you don’t get erections when you are physically close to her.
