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Don't Know What to Do

Hey my question is kind of long so here goes. My girlfriend left town a month ago. She says her mom and dad made a plan to ''kidnap'' her. She hasn't ended things or anything of the sort. I, on the other hand, am trying to get over her but I can't get any closure because weeks before she left she told me she was pregnant, and a few days ago she told me she wants us to move in together.She almost never calls even though she claims to and I don't know what to do. I'm really thinking of just going to see her (she's a 2 hour drive away) and sort everything out because I can't live like this anymore. I'd appreciate any advice.


It seems to me that you already know what you want to do; that is to go where your beloved has been taken and talk with her about your future.

Is it possible that her parents kidnapped her because they knew she was pregnant and wanted to break the two of you up. I hope that they aren't trying to force her to have an abortion against her will.

The mysterious part of the story is that she seems to be voluntarily pulling back. She doesn't call and denies this fact when you point it out. I don't hear her saying that her parents are preventing her from calling. I don't know if she's a very passive and obedient person who is simply following her parents' dictates or if she, herself, wants to end the relationship. If it is her parents who are trying to break your tie, then you will want to talk with them. Doing them will prove how much you love their daughter and how much you are devoted to her and the child. This kind of talk will go a long way to shifting their attitude, in the event that they are against you. 

I do think it's a good plan to talk with her and find out where she's coming from. Does she want to still be with you? Does she want to keep the baby? Do her parents want her to terminate the pregnancy?

What do you want? Do you want to have this child with her? Do you want to commit to her? Marry her? Be very clear on your wishes before you go. Your clarity will help you assert your own desires. Please, please let me know how you make out. I think you really don't want to give this woman up, nor do you want to walk away from your child. So fight for her. Fight for the child.


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