Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love's 10 Simple Steps for Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship

 "Dr. Turndorf has relationships figured out. If you want a great relationship, you must read her book and follow her 10-step method for lasting love." 

Jack Canfield, author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book empire.

Formerly entitled Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First): A Step-by-Step Guide to Resolving Relationship Conflict.    

Even if you’re locked in battle and have been for years, your relationship can change. You can have the relationship you want and you can end the fighting that kills the romance and breaks the connection in relationships!

“If anger and fighting are ruining your dream of a happy marriage (or relationship), Dr. Turndorf’s conflict-resolution program is for you.”
Dr. John Gray, author of the #1 New York Times bestselling Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Dr. Jamie Turndorf’s techniques, based on 30 years of research out of her Center for Emotional Communication, transform conflict into connection for a lifetime of lasting love.

Dr. Turndorf discovered that relationship conflicts could be boiled down to a number of core principles that apply to anyone, regardless of age, sexual orientation, or cultural background. I discovered what creates conflict, what fuels it, and what makes it turn ugly. And she discovered simple methods for resolving conflict and turning it into a positive force that makes relationships stronger instead of breaking them apart.

“This well-researched book offers a thorough, step-by-step program that provides tools for couples to heal even the most troubled relationships.”
— Dr. John Mack, Pulitzer Prize–winning author and former professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School

Heated fighting triggers a biochemical imbalance in men that causes them to flee from conflict. The technical name for this is the Demand/ Withdraw Negative Escalation Cycle, also known as “husband withdrawal.” This is the number one cause of marital and relationship strife, divorce, and domestic violence. Dr. Jamie Turndorf’s techniques, based on 30 years of research out of her Center for Emotional Communication, transform conflict into connection for a lifetime of lasting love.

“This book is mandatory reading for every couple that wants to build lasting love.”
— John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times bestselling, Homecoming

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How Kiss Your Fights Goodbye Works:

Since its first publication, this book has saved thousands of relationships and marriages and changed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people.

Beginning with simple Cool-Down steps, you’ll learn why husband withdrawal occurs and then how to use Climate Control strategies to reset the relationship. Women will discover the real reason why men never seem to listen—it’s nothing personal—and the secret trick that actually makes them want to listen and stick around to settle disputes.

Dr. Turndorf’s proven conflict-resolution method interrupts the cycle of fighting for the majority of couples, and can also be used to defuse disagreements among friends and family members.
“This book is mandatory reading for every couple that wants to build lasting love.”
— John Bradshaw, author of the #1 New York Times bestselling, Homecoming

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I highly recommend this book! Kiss Your Fights Good-bye is crucial reading for anyone seeking greater understanding and happiness in the murky, volatile domain of human relations. While the insights in this book pertain mainly to romantic or marital relationships, what she's written here speaks just as well to the many different forms relationships take. In essence, Dr. Turndorf's book provides extremely valuable information and training on how to relate successfully with other human beings. I speak from experience when I say that in practice Kiss Your Fights Good-bye has really helped me to kiss my fights goodbye. -Wendy

This is a wonderful book. Dr. Jamie Turndorf has distilled potent information from both cutting edge biochemical and brain research perspectives, and well-respected theories of relationship and communication and written a fast-paced, clear guide for anyone wishing to improve the way they relate to others. The information is doubly useful with significant others/spouses, but when applied with some thoughtfulness and humility, will improve relationships at work, with children, and frankly with everyone you might have an occasion to argue with. It is structured so that you develop a clear understanding of what happens during conflict, and straight-forward, real-world solutions to keep you from falling into the same old patterns that create and maintain dysfunction. My husband and I found Dr. John Gottman's, The Science of Trust extremely useful, but it is a difficult book to go through. Kiss Your Fights Good-bye is a highly accessible read, and the potential benefits are profound and permanent. You don't have to buy into anything but the idea that you really can choose to give up misery and fighting in your most important relationships! –Susan B.

Having read the book from cover to cover, I believe that this is the best resource I have found for offering sound advice to couples with communication issues. (Previously, I have read several books by prominent marriage counselors on this topic; their works were good, but not as practical as this one).Dr. Turndorf offers ten “simple steps to cooling conflicts and rekindling your relationship.” Depending on the depth of the problem experienced by a given couple, the steps may be simple for some but can be overwhelming for a couple with serious relationship issues. The major focus of the book is to prepare the reader to diagnose communications issues and learn how to cope with them in a positive, problem-solving way. Although my wife and I are in our 52nd year of a happy marriage, I still found several useful tips for reducing stress in our marriage. I strongly advise that any couple facing unresolved communications issues should read this book and apply the author’s recommendations for overcoming the differences. The author provides practical advice for diagnosing problems and working to resolve them. If you want your relationship to survive and thrive, you owe it to yourself and your partner to give these recommendations a fair try. – William B.

This book is a must for everyone who wishes to have a harmonious and long-lasting, loving relationship. Dr. Turndorf's book was so simple to read and the steps are very clear. It is a beautifully written book and everyone can benefit from it. Dr. Turndorf understands relationships and her book is the solution to achieve relationship bliss now. A jewel of a book! – Gwynne M.



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-- Fr. Richard Rohr,
Founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation (CAC), and bestselling author of Falling Upward

“I found the book very helpful in guiding people to learn how to tune into spirit messages, and particularly liked Dr. Turndorf's guidance through meditations. In Parts two and three, Dr. Turndorf covered so many of the ways that spirits convey messages and this book will be a great help for people trying to get in touch with their loved ones.

Part 1 was her story of losing the love of her life. Reading about the pain and agony she experienced and SO MANY people experience will be healing to know that others experience the same emotions after the passing of a loved one. I think the first part could be a book on it's own merit because it is so beneficial to people dealing with the same intensity of grief.

As a scientist myself, I was glad to read that she didn't focus on a religion. As a medium, I have come to know that "god" not of a religion, but is the consciousness of all living things. Like Dr. Turndorf I've learned that all people are equal and all creatures part of all existence (and with "souls.").

I particularly enjoyed reading how she used her talent/mediumship to help people overcome their grief. Readers will get a lot out of this book and know that their loved ones are always connected.”

-- Rob Gutro,
Author, Medium, Scientist

“I could not put this book down!!! It is so gripping from the first few words, and beautifully written. Dr. Turndorf’s courageous story of her reunion with her beloved husband after his death and the heartfelt stories of others serve to validate what many may have privately experienced but discounted as just a by-product of grief and loss and not really “REAL.” The book’s simple and powerful techniques provide essential tools for connecting to loved ones in spirit and will allow scientists to amass new data from lay people, other than mediums. Your book will make a profound contribution to the now significant scientific data already collected in laboratories around the world studying survival of individual consciousness after death, while adding richly to our own sense of love and peace. Thank you for the Gift!”

-- Linda G. Russek, Ph.D,
Former Co-Founder and Co-Director of the Human Energy Systems Laboratory, U of Arizona, Co-author of The Living Energy Universe

“This is the most beautiful true love story that I have ever read. The depth of the author's love for her husband and her terrible grief at his death, and then her triumph as she learned to continue her relationship with him even after his death are all palpable. I lived it with her, and her story has stayed in my mind. For me, though, the reason to read this book is the author's wisdom in teaching her readers how to heal rifts across the death boundary. As one who has done extensive afterlife research, I can attest to the importance of post-death healing of relationships to both our dead loved ones and ourselves! Yet few people know how essential this healing is, and fewer still know how to begin it. As a prominent relationship counselor, Dr. Turndorf tackles this essential area, and she does it well. Hers is a wonderful book.”

-- Roberta Grimes,
author of The Fun of Dying: Find Out What Really Happens Next and The Fun of Staying in Touch

“Exceptionally well written from beginning to end, Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased is as informed and informative as it is inspired and inspiring. Especially recommended to the attention of anyone who is suffering from the loss of a loved one.”

-- Margaret Lane,
“Midwest Book Review”

“Love Never Dies is an astonishing and refreshing story of survival of consciousness. She clearly shows the many ways spirit can communicate through us and with animals and even objects. I could hardly put the book down, and I have read many of these types of books. This is a great read for those who have lost a loved one and are looking for answers to the ways spirit makes contact with us, and also how we can contact spirit to make peace. I highly recommend this book.”

-- Dave Campbell,
Certified Windbridge Research Medium (WCRM)

“When I held this 248 page spiritual giant in my hands, even before I started turning the pages I knew I had found a special guide that would help me through one of the hardest journeys I have taken. To love so deeply and completely and then to have the person removed from my physical life is hard enough, but then to find a way to stay connected with them is even more frustrating. So it was totally Heaven sent when I was asked to review this gentle messenger that helped me to stay connected, to recognize the connection and to even validate the connection. I also loved the way the author shared on such a deep and personal level it helped me to not feel alone and gave me courage to bypass my mind. I would recommend this sweet giant to anyone who feels the loss of a loved one. Thanks so much Jamie for the awesome blueprint. “

-- Riki Frahmann,
Chief Reviewer for the ezine Mystic Living Today

"As a colleague of both Jamie and Jean, I have been blessed with firsthand witness to their devotion and mutual love, in life and now through death. In her eloquently written new book, Dr. Turndorf has made their everlasting love accessible to all. Just as the uniqueness of their emotional connection radiated to me, it will radiate to you, the reader, in this groundbreaking work that will guide you to reestablish your relationships with loved ones in spirit... and even make peace, if needed."

-- Dr. Robert S. Pepper,
author Emotional Incest in Group Psychotherapy

"In her book, Love Never Dies: How to Reconnect and Make Peace with the Deceased, Turndorf teaches a method for dialoguing with the departed which holds tremendous healing potential for everyone who has lost a loved one. Turndorf is passionate in her certainty that we can actually communicate with those we’ve lost. Since reading Love Never Dies (which describes the dialogue process in great detail) I’ve used Turndorf’s technique and it has opened life-changing doors for me. It’s a powerful process, and I encourage everyone who feels ready to try it."

-- Ken Page,
L.C.S.W. from "A Life-Changing Exercise for Anyone Who Has Lost a Loved One" published in Psychology Today

"I just finished reading Dr. Turndorf's most recent book, LOVE NEVER DIES, and I highly recommend it for everyone who wants to connect with a loved one who has passed on to the Spirit Realm. This book tells the heartfelt story of the author’s tragic loss of her husband and his subsequent messages to her from beyond the veil, and it outlines the steps we should take to communicate with the spirits of the people we loved on Earth."

-- Garnet Schulhauser,
author of Dancing on a Stamp and Dancing Forever with Spirit

"If anger and fighting are ruining your dream of a happy marriage, Dr. Turndorf’s conflict resolution program is for you."

-- John Gray,
Author of NY Times #1 bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"This well-researched book offers a thorough, step-by-step program that provides tools for couples to heal even the most troubled relationships."

-- Dr. John Mack,
Pulitzer Prize winning author and Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School

“This book provides a down-to-earth, easy to apply, proven method for creating relationship harmony. This book should be mandatory reading for every couple that wants to head-off or resolve the inevitable relationship conflicts and build lasting love. Buy this book and put it to use!”

-- John Bradshaw,
Author of NY Times #1 bestseller Homecoming

"Dr. Turndorf is an amazing individual who has wonderful advice to offer men and women of all ages and in all types of relationships. Ignore her counsel at your peril!"

-- Bill Hammond III,
Winner of the Best Historical Fiction Award, 2012

"You are awesome Dr. Jamie. You really are. The best part about you is the way you translate complex psychological stuff into easy to understand and actionable insights."

-- Kajay Williams,
Producer Relationship Advice Cafe

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-- Michael Dresser,
Syndicated Radio Host

"Good stuff. Great insight. I love your approach. Who doesn't need more healing. I love your idea of using your partner as a healing agent. That's such a great way to see your partner. You give great labels and patterns to look for. I love your method. You make it sound so easy. You have a great website with lots of great information and resources. These are the tools we all need."

-- Dr. Matt Townsend,
Host, The Matt Townsend Show