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Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love's 10 Simple Steps for Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship
"Dr. Turndorf has relationships figured out. If you want a great relationship, you must read her book and follow her 10-step method for lasting love."
-- Jack Canfield
Author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book empire and The Secret
Dr. Turndorf's new Hay House book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye: Dr. Love's 10 Simple Steps for Cooling Conflict and Rekindling Your Relationship is now available. CLICK HERE TO ORDER ON AMAZON NOW.
More about Kiss Your Fights Good-bye:
Heated fighting triggers a biochemical imbalance in men that causes them to flee from conflict. The technical name for this is the Demand/ Withdraw Negative Escalation Cycle, also known as “husband withdrawal.” This is the number one cause of marital and relationship strife, divorce, and domestic violence. Dr. Jamie Turndorf’s techniques, based on 30 years of research out of her Center for Emotional Communication, transform conflict into connection for a lifetime of lasting love.
Even if you’re locked in battle and have been for years, your relationship can change. Beginning with simple Cool-Down steps, you’ll learn why husband withdrawal occurs and then how to use Climate Control strategies to reset the relationship. Women will discover the real reason why men never seem to listen—it’s nothing personal—and the secret trick that actually makes them want to listen and stick around to settle disputes.
Dr. Turndorf’s proven conflict-resolution method interrupts the cycle of fighting for the majority of couples, and can also be used to defuse disagreements among friends and family members.
Advance Praise for Kiss Your Fights Good-bye:
The solution to obtain relationship bliss
This book is a must for everyone who wishes to have a harmonious and long-lasting, loving relationship. Dr.Turndorf's book was so simple to read and the steps are very clear. It is a beautifully written book and everyone can benefit from it. Dr.Turndorf understands relationships and her book is the solution to achieve relationship bliss now. A jewel of a book!
Maximum help with conflict resolution!
Reviewer: Roger J. P
I just finished devouring this book. Absolutely great stuff. This is the help I needed twenty years ago. Duh! Now I get it! My marriage of 30 years is over BUT maybe this can help me save a one year old relationship that has foundered due to my lack of "conflict resolution" skills. I'm going to re-read this book then do my best to apply what I've learned. (Then I'll read it again).
Learned So Much
Reviewer: MMF (New York)
I read this book after a break up and wished I would have known about it while I was in the relationship. It taught me so much about how terribly both me and my boyfriend at the time were communicating with each other and especially how much over analyzing I was doing. But all my future relationships did benefit from it. It definitely taught me to relax a lot more in relationships. The over analyzing was killing my relationships.
Dr. Love's method works!
Reviewer: Emilie K. (New Jersey)
I love this book. Even though it's written for couples, I am living proof that Dr. Turndorf's conflict resolution techniques improve any kind of relationship. Now I get along with my daughter! This book is packed with humorous anecdotes and case examples. It's a fun read even if you don't have relationship conflict.
Behavior Modification for Women!
Reviewer: Thessy O
This is a must read for all women in relationships. The author gives us a blueprint on how to behave with our partners. Many women believe in confronting the situation. I did until I read this book. This only drives the men away. Women need to be friends with their men, reducing conflicts and fighting situations. Control the outbursts and you'll have him around. Very helpful to me.
Fight No More
Reviewer: Dean Temple (California)
Most "professionals" try to make fighting acceptable in relationships and I think it's because they don't have a clue about how to help couples stop the fighting. Dr. Turndorf's "core therapy" method is awesome because she doesn't give quick-fixes and one-size fits all techniques that don't work. Instead she explains that all relationship fighting is caused by unhealed childhood baggage that makes you overreact and causes more fighting. Dr. T shows you how to figure out what wounds are causing your fights, and then she shows you how to help each other heal the wounds. Then you're ready for her step-by-step conflict resolution program which works. The results are nothing short of amazing.
Self-help book that shows how to stop marital war
Reviewer: Debbie B (United Kingdom)
This self-help book centers on Dr. Turndorf's proven method for resolving relationship conflict before it gets ugly, abusive, and over. The author, aka Dr. Love, bases her conflict resolution methodology on research that has led her to conclude, "fighting creates a chemical imbalance in men" that leads to more aggressive and negative behavior. This book provides ways to end or at least reduce the cycle of relationship warfare that spirals into divorce, hatred, and oftentimes leads to physical and mental abuse.
Her conflict-resolution steps are simple to follow. Sometimes we all can use an arbitrator like Dr. T. Her writing style is so personal that it feels like she's in your living room guiding you to end the conflict and reconnect. This book is for anyone who wants a better relationship with a partner, a friend, a sister, brother, mother, father, daughter or son.
Dr. Turndorf's Methods Work
Reviewer: Sharon S
This self help book is based on the theory that arguments lead to flight-fight behavior in men. Men then become withdrawn and removed. Dr. Turndorf provides suggestions to cool down the "climate" so that they can reapproach each other. This book is packed with humorous anecdotes and case examples. Its a fun read even if you don"t have marital conflict.
Self-help book that shows how to stop relationship war
Reviewer: Harriet K
This self-help book centers on Dr. Turndof's ten-step method to resolve marital conflict before it turns ugly, abusive, and over. The author AKA Dr. Love bases her conflict resolution methodology on research that has led her to conclude, "fighting creates a chemical imbalance in men" that leads to more aggressive and negative behavior. This book provides ways to end or at least reduce the cycle of marital warfare that spirals into divorce, hatred, and often time's leads to physical and mental abuse.
Though the steps seem obvious, it is helpful to see them written in a simple anecdotal manner that most adults can easily follow. The claim of 90% solution using this technique needs proper perspective, as the users will not have Dr. Love to personally guide them. It seems most likely that most relationships spiraling out of control need a third party arbitrator like Dr. Love to help the couple attain consensus rather than conflict. However, this book might prove beneficial to those partnerships not quite down the escalator trying to avoid the ride to marital hell.
"If anger and fighting are ruining your dream of a happy marriage, Dr. Turndorf’s conflict resolution program is for you."
-- John Gray,
Author of NY Times #1 bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"This well-researched book offers a thorough, step-by-step program that provides tools for couples to heal even the most troubled relationships."
-- Dr. John Mack
Pulitzer Prize winning author and Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School
“This book is mandatory reading for every couple that wants to build lasting love.”
-- John Bradshaw,
Author of NY Times #1 bestseller Homecoming
"Dr. Turndorf is an amazing individual who has wonderful advice to offer men and women of all ages and in all types of relationships. Ignore her counsel at your peril!"
-- Bill Hammond III,
Winner of the Best Historical Fiction Award, 2012
"You are awesome Dr. Jamie. You really are. The best part about you is the way you translate complex psychological stuff into easy to understand and actionable insights."
-- Kajay Williams,
Producer Relationship Advice Cafe
"Let me tell you why you're extremely important now. I really believe your message is there. You're spot on. More and more people should be taking advantage of what you're offering."
-- Michael Dresser,
Syndicated Radio Host
"Good stuff. Great insight. I love your approach. Who doesn't need more healing. I love your idea of using your partner as a healing agent. That's such a great way to see your partner. You give great labels and patterns to look for. I love your method. You make it sound so easy. You have a great website with lots of great information and resources. These are the tools we all need."
-- Dr. Matt Townsend,
Host, The Matt Townsend Show